Karen Swim

Writer, Marketer, Woman of Purpose

Marriage is not a Public Sport

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Yet another marriage scandal has gone public with the revelations about Jesse James and Sandra Bullock. I am heartbroken about the infidelity but more heartbroken that a very intimate incident is being trotted out for sport in the media. Infidelity is complicated and painful and hard enough in private, the spotlight only serves to amplify the pain.

When it comes to marriage, I believe there is no public opinion. Public figures and celebrities should have the right to at least have this intimate relationship protected from the scrutiny of the public eye. We have no right to vote, or cast judgment upon anyone else’s marriage.

Infidelity in a marriage is a horrible thing but not irreparable. Couples can overcome and have a stronger marriage when they are allowed to heal, work through the issues and rebuild trust. The last thing a couple needs in this circumstance are other people weighing in with opinions about whether or not they should reconcile.

Yes, we live in an age of disclosure but at some point we must draw boundaries. This seems a good place to start.

Would you want the public involved in your most intimate relationship?

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March 28, 2010 - Posted by | Personal Essay | , , ,


  1. You are so right, Karen. Seeing and hearing all the gory details over and over again in the tabloids and on TV and the Internet makes the situation worse.

    Comment by Lillie Ammann | March 29, 2010 | Reply

    • Lillie, it is so distasteful to me, it’s reality gone too far.

      Comment by karenswim | March 29, 2010 | Reply

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